Get reconnected with yourself
People Pleasing Therapy for adults in Los Angeles, CA
TELEHEALTH THROUGHOUT CA, WA AND AL
You’ve always been the one people can count on.
You show up, you follow through, you make things easier for everyone around you.
It feels natural — maybe even like just who you are.
But lately there's a tiredness underneath it all, a low-grade resentment you can't quite place, and a growing sense that somewhere along the way you lost track of what you actually want.
You might recognize some of this:
Saying yes is automatic — saying no feels selfish, uncomfortable, or just too complicated
You're good at reading what others need and adjusting yourself accordingly
You work hard to keep the peace, avoid conflict, and make sure everyone around you is okay
You feel responsible for other people's emotions in a way that's hard to turn off
You give generously and consistently, but sometimes catch yourself feeling resentful and aren't sure why
When someone asks what you want, there's a pause — a genuine uncertainty about what the answer is
You've started to wonder who you are outside of what you do for other people
This isn't a character flaw. The care you extend to others is real. But when giving feels compulsive rather than chosen, and when your own needs keep getting moved to the back of the line, something worth paying attention to is happening.
Here's what's happening underneath:
People pleasing isn't a personality type — it's a strategy.
At some point, likely early on, you learned that keeping others comfortable kept things safe.
That tuning into what people needed and responding to it was how you maintained connection, avoided conflict, or managed unpredictable environments. It worked.
The problem is that strategy didn't come with an off switch. What started as a way to navigate your world became a default way of moving through it — one that costs you more than you may realize.
So why hasn't it shifted?
Most people who identify as people pleasers have tried to simply do less — set a boundary, say no, prioritize themselves. And sometimes that works in the moment.
But the pull to over-give usually comes back, because the pattern isn't really about behavior. It's about what your nervous system believes will happen if you stop.
Until that belief gets updated at the level where it actually lives, willpower and intention can only take you so far.
Here's a bit about me and how I work:
I specialize in EMDR and somatic approaches that help you understand where this pattern came from and — more importantly — help your nervous system learn that it's safe to let it go.
That means we're not just working on saying no more often. We're working on what happens inside you when you consider it.
Over time, care becomes something you choose rather than something you compulsively extend. Your own needs start to feel as real and legitimate as everyone else's.
And the resentment that's been building quietly in the background starts to have somewhere to go.
What becomes possible…..
Saying no without the spiral of guilt that follows
Knowing what you want and feeling entitled to want it
Relationships that feel mutual instead of one-sided
A sense of yourself that exists independently of what you do for others
Frequently asked questions about anxiety therapy
FAQs
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It starts with learning to understand the anxiety as well as which tools can help to create balance. The longer term process consists of a deeper exploration around unmet needs and finding ways to fulfill them.
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If you worry about things a lot, have lots of thoughts in your head that make it hard to concentrate or make decisions, feel like you need to make the “right” decision but don’t know how, don’t do things you want to do because you’re scared, have physical sensations like racing heart, dizziness, shortness of breath, body tension….you might be struggling with anxiety.
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Yes! I’m currently serving LA and Ventura counties virtually through telehealth. I can also work with anyone in the state of CA, WA, or AL.
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I work with a variety of anxiety-related issues, including generalized anxiety disorder (GAD), social anxiety, panic attacks, phobias, and anxiety triggered by past trauma. Each type of anxiety has unique features, and I tailor my approach to address your specific needs and experiences.
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It’s normal to feel like you should be able to handle anxiety on your own, but if your anxiety is affecting your daily life, relationships, work, or well-being, therapy might help. Therapy provides tools, insight, and guidance that help you manage anxiety more effectively and long-term.
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Everyone's journey is unique, so the timeline for feeling better varies. Some people notice relief after just a few sessions, while others may take longer to fully address the underlying issues. The important thing is that with the right tools and support, you can move forward, and I’m here to support you every step of the way.